not easier

it’s not easier
a parent lost to cancer
again why again

Mostly Blue sky with bits of tree branches in edges of frame. whisps of white clouds

On August 24, 2022 we lost my mother-in-law to cancer. She’d been diagnosed just over a year prior. It’s been a challenging time for our family as we learn how to navigate parenting our remaining parent. I’ve struggled greatly this past year to figure out how to move forward (or why). The community has been incredibly supportive and I do not have words to properly express how much they mean to me and to our family.

If you would like to make a donation in her memory, a scholarship fund was established at the university where she taught for nearly 30 years. Please contact me if you would like further information.

For the best explanation of grief I’ve ever found, I point you to the ball, button, and box analogy. I hold that my box has many balls of various sizes, so the button often gets hit when I least expect it.

I’m not certain how frequently I’ll write at this site or what its future holds.

Each day is a new adventure.

make a plan

thankful for my right —
nineteenth; complex privilege.
plan to vote today!

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The next General Election is on Tuesday November 8, 2022.

The NY Primary is Tuesday August 23, 2022 with early voting through Sunday, August 21, 2022.

Find out more at

Blue circle sticker with an american flag and texct in white reading "I voted in Westchester County" next to a yellow sign posted on a black chain link fence reading "Vote Here / Vote Aquí" and an arrow. It is a sunny day and a children's playground is in the background.

nap want

nap want blanket lap
care not heat humidity
nap lap blanket love

Tuxedo cat curled up on a crocheted hexagon motif blanket that's covering their person's lap. Also visible is part of a laptop. The computer's background image is of the JWST's rendered image of  NGC 3324 in the Carina Nebula.
Dot asleep on my lap … shared with a laptop.

a moment

a moment in time
long or short is what we have.
be kind and mindful.